Category: emotional

Mindfulness and Essential Oils

Mindfulness can be a multisensory experience. We know that beautiful natural sights and peaceful music can both relax us and focus our attention to the present moment. Scent, too, can have a calming and meditative effect. Think of incense in churches and the fragrance of a rose garden or a field of lavender.

Below, I’ve chosen oils that are known to have meditative and/or mindful effects. I included among them those which can assist in emotional healing.

I recommend not burning oils. The heat will damage them. Use a diffuser or a mister. If you are going to be meditating, you can also occasionally inhale directly from the bottle. They make a fragrant addition to a calming bath. (See cautions below.)

If your heart feels wounded, you could use bergamot. If you’re feeling emotionally vulnerable, reach for chamomile.

You can find a lot of more specific information about essential oils on the internet. Consider this a starting point.

Bergamot: Opens hearts closed by grief to receive and give joy. Helps hearts already open to direct healing to others.

Cedarwood: Cuts through mental blockages to deepen our connection to spirit. Excellent for deep relaxation, meditation and psychic work.

Chamomile: Calming and soothing, with a strong effect on anger and oversensitivity. Assists in loving communication.

Cinnamon (bark): Helps us connect with our psychic powers; used with visualization to create prosperity.

Clary Sage: Helps to encourage vivid dreams and clear inner visions. Also relieves stress.

Cypress: Helps with transitions, especially when involving decision-making; gives comfort and strength in the face of loss including that of death.

Eucalyptus: Psychic cleanser of negative energies especially from arguments or fights.

Frankincense: Historically a ceremonial oil, used to deepen breathing and elevate consciousness; helps to make us aware that reality is multidimensional; also helps break unwanted ties with the past.

Juniperberry: Cleans out negative psychic energy, including one’s own feelings of un-cleanliness.

Lavender: Calming, balancing; helps us integrate spirituality into everyday life. Can assist in sleep.

Lemongrass: Stimulates psychic awareness.

Marjoram: Eases loneliness and grief, unites psychic and conscious minds.

Melissa (also known as Lemon Balm): Opens the heart center; good for anxiety, emotional shock, grief; assists in past-life recall.

Myrrh: Grounds spiritual energies, aids in meditation; helps us move through emotional and spiritual blockages.

Patchouli: A grounding oil which connects us to our physical selves.

Peppermint: Mental stimulant; balances both the overblown and the underdeveloped ego.

Rose: It is a healing and balancing oil with a natural affinity with the heart. Rose has the highest frequency of any oil, and raises the frequency of cells bringing harmony and enhanced well-being to the body and balancing personal will.

Rosemary: Psychic protector; stimulant which promotes mental clarity.

Rosewood: Calms without inducing drowsiness; an excellent oil for meditation.

Sandalwood: Stills the conscious mind so a meditative state can be achieved; helps free the mind from the past.

Vetiver: With its wonderful earthy smell, this is one of the most powerfully grounding oils.

Guidelines and Cautions

Choose only therapeutic-grade oils. I use Young Living Oils. I get no financial benefit from saying this. I just think they’re the best. If expense is an issue, it’s better to have a few high-grade oils than a lot of lower-grade ones that will deliver fewer benefits.

Skin irritants that should neither be applied directly to the skin or used in the bath include bergamot, lemongrass, lemon verbena, melissa, peppermint. If you’re susceptible to skin allergies, place no essential oils directly on the skin.

Do not use if you have high blood pressure: cypress, rosemary

The information herein is not intended to replace the advice of a qualified medical professional. I recommend looking up any oil you contemplate using.

Is Mindfulness Dangerous?: Part II

Last week in “Is Mindfulness Dangerous?: Part I,” I wrote about an article entitled, “Is Mindfulness Making Us Ill?” published in the January 23 issue of The Guardian. In that post, I described some of the misconceptions in the article about what mindfulness is and how it’s being applied in the UK.

In this blog post, I write about some of the problems that can arise when one begins a mindfulness practice.

Florian Ruths, quoted in the article above, is clinical lead for mindfulness-based therapy in the South London and Maudsley NHS foundation trust. He says that self-taught mindfulness works for most people, provided that they don’t have disabling stress, clinical depression, or extreme anxiety. In the latter cases, a guided practice is far preferable.

He makes a valuable analogy to physical exercise. Probably about 20% of those who start off at a gym get injured because they haven’t gotten appropriate instruction.

Mind/Body Crises

When I began to teach Reiki, I was discriminating about who I would take as a student. Years of working in a metaphysical store in Manhattan and dealing with countless customers had taught me how to recognize if someone had serious emotional/mental issues. The prospect of spending money seems to bring up those issues.

Reiki can also bring such issues to the surface, as can any mind/body practice. Many people habitually push down their emotional issues. These may include unresolved traumas. Depending on how severe these are, a mind/body practice may remove the protective seals.

Anyone who knows or suspects that they have major traumas is far better off not trying to address them without professional guidance. By that, I don’t necessarily mean a psychotherapist. Trained EFT and Matrix Reimprinting practitioners, especially those who have had training in trauma practice, can responsibly assist a traumatized individual (and can benefit anyone who would like assistance in unraveling blockages).

I imagine that going to one of Thich Nhat Hanh’s retreats may also provide a safe and supportive setting, but I have no first-hand information on this. I’d recommend that anyone who knows they have such issues research this further.

Mindfulness Training is Powerful.

The most important point for me is that what is being done in Great Britain (and the US) is to trivialize mindfulness as if it’s some kind of useful trick like memory improvement that gives your life a quick fix. It’s the psychological equivalent of a pharmaceutical drug. However, mindfulness practice is far from a quick fix. has deep effects on the body/mind. That’s why, like yoga and chi kung, people have been practicing it for centuries or more. It works, and it works in ways you can’t always anticipate.

In terms of whether going to a training or retreat is a good idea for someone, consider the following:

  • Whether deprivation, whether of food or sleep, is involved
  • The qualifications of the trainers/leaders
  • If the individual has known traumas that remain unaddressed
  • If someone is uncomfortable with strong emotions
  • If an individual likes privacy for emotional expression
  • If one has never had therapy, whether individual or group, or any kind of psychological coaching.
  • More broadly, if one has never before explored the mind-body connection.

In any of the above cases, I recommend coaching. An additional reason for my favoring of EFT and Matrix Reimprinting (which can be combined in a coaching session) is that you can learn and practice them in between coaching sessions. Something else, though, may feel more comfortable for you. Have an introductory session. Decide if you want to go further.

In the final section of this series, I’ll write about easy, beginning mindfulness practices.